Marriage Old Fashioned? Just Throw a Kegger!

I have just been told that my marriage of 35 years is old and obsolete! Wow! I was also informed that the marriages “now days” are shorter no longer than 7 to 11 years. I was shocked to say the least. If you are going into this short term then delete the vows “Till death do us part”. I am in my marriage for the long haul. I am growing old with the man I love, my BEST FRIEND.

I recently read and article in CNB News “First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce on average,”  according to Shaunti Feldhahn in an article written by Paul Strand http://www.cbn.com/cbnnews/us/2014/May/Divorce-Shocker-Most-Marriages-Do-Make-It/ . This is much lower than we are led to believe. I have been told it is as high as 50%. So glad to see it is much lower.

So if this relationship you’re in is for the short term then why have the expensive dress, cake flowers, wedding and reception? Just throw a kegger and put up a banner that says “Together until we find someone better”, gifts optional!

No matter what the statistics are and what the naysayers are chanting, I am in my marriage for the long term, say 200 hundred years or more!

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In the Kitchen with Grandma Jo

I have been baking and cooking for the upcoming Holidays. Nope, definitely not good for the waist line as I do test them all.   This ritual reminds me of my Grandma Jo’s kitchen, always full of fantastic smells and always cookies in her cookie jar. There are times when I feel her in my kitchen shaking her finger at me for taste testing.

My latest culinary creation was “Cranberry-Ginger Chutney”

The ginger gives the cranberries a little kick. Here is a single batch of the yummy goodness. I double the recipe and bottle then freeze (leave room at the top for expansion) so I can have some all year around.

1 bag cranberries

2 cups spiced apple cider

1 cup brown sugar

3/4 tsp grated FRESH ginger (please remember to peel first)

1/2 tsp lemon, lime or orange zest (optional, I use lime)

1/2 tsp salt

In a medium sized pan, boil the cranberries with the apple cider 6 to 7 minutes until you hear the berries popping. Simmer on medium low for about 10 minutes. Then add the brown sugar, ginger, citrus zest and the salt. Let all this goodness simmer for another 20 minutes. Transfer to containers and refrigerate.

If making a large batch, pour the hot liquid (careful not to burn yourself) into canning jars. Invert (set jar on lid) so it will seal correctly. Store again in the refrigerator and give as gifts.

Have a great Thanksgiving!

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Life is GOOD!

Some mornings are frustrating from the very beginning. My first clue, as I am stumbling down the hall with my eyes half closed, I step into cold cat barf. I suppress the urge to scream as I hop down the hall on one foot so I don’t spread the joy.   I grab paper towels and spray cleaner and clean the gross crap off my foot first. When that is cleaned up I run for the coffee which is so very necessary to get me through my mornings. COFFEE!   But wait…..the fancy automated coffee maker did not start. So I push the manual button as I stare longingly at the empty carafe. Must have my coffee.

To kill time, I start my computer only to find there are three bazillion updates waiting to load! I watch the counter 3 of 468, well this is going to take awhile. I really didn’t need to get any work done, at least not in the near future, as my computer continues to count down the numerous updates. COFFEE!

I stumble back down the hall to get my glasses so I can see…..yes that is the kind of morning I am having, I forgot my glasses when I got up and I really need to see.   On my way back out to check on my coffee, I peek into my daughters bedroom to see her peacefully sleeping.   A beautiful calm look on her face and suddenly everything is fine. Life is good.

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Thank You, I Appreciate That

Thank You, I Appreciate That

Tell someone you appreciate them, today!  Why?  Well first it will make them smile and smiles are the most beautiful things in the world.  It will make them feel good which in turn will make you feel good.  Don’t be insincere.  There is nothing worse than being insincere.  You are lying to them and that is bad karma and that will come back to bite YOU in the butt.  Just a simple “thank you” acknowledging your appreciation is the first step.

The dictionary describes appreciation as “gratitude; thankful recognition”.

Look past the surface of the person before you, find the worth of that person.  Then, express to them your appreciation of what they have done or are doing.

If you are not comfortable saying “Man I really appreciate what you’ve done for me” a simple “Thank you” goes a long way.  Feeling appreciated, genuinely appreciated, lifts peoples spirit and it gives a boost to their self worth, their value not only to you but to others.

Tell your children  how much you appreciate their help every day.  Even if it is a chore around the house they started out doing it willingly or not.  They will be more apt to help you the next time or will even help without even being asked!  Saying “thank you” once is not enough.  Make it a habit when you appreciate what someone else has done whether it was for you or for someone else.  Acknowledge their thoughtfulness.

Practice appreciation by starting with yourself.  Acknowledge when you have accomplished something good.  You have the right to feel good.  Pat yourself on the back.

Hey, Great Job!! Now doesn’t that feel good!

“Every time we remember to say “thank you”, we experience nothing less than heaven on earth.”Sarah Ban Breathnach

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Cat Lover!

I am a cat lover…dogs scare me.  This phobia is because I was bit by my next door neighbors dog as a child. I still shy away from dogs to this day, but cats are my friends and my loving family.

I officially became the crazy cat lady when we, as a family, adopted our fourth cat, Thor Kitty.  Thor Kitty is a lover and was abandoned by his last family and your guess is as good as mine on why.  Thor is such a loving cat, but still being a kitten (he is under two years) he gets into mischief.  Thor Kitty will terrorize my cat Boo who is the oldest of the inside cats.  Poor Boo just wants to be left alone AND Thor just wants to play. Boo is my cat, she is a black, all she wants to do is sit by be while I work in my studio.

Athena and Tiger round out our family of cats.  Athena, a muted torte, is a one person cat.  She loves my daughter and only my daughter.  We always warn visitors not to even try to pet her or they may pull back a bloody stub.  Athena hates my husband…..well all men really and she only puts up with me if my daughter is gone.

Tiger is the old man and is about 18 years old.  His name of course came from his orange tiger stripped fur.  He loves my husband and puts up with me because I feed him.  His favorite activity is to knock on the back door so he can walk through the house only to go back out the front door.

Love my cats no matter what.  They are my forever family.

“The cat could very well be man’s best friend but would never stoop to admitting it.”  ~Doug Larson

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Life Should Come With a Manual!

Life Should Come With a Manual!

When you were born there should have been a rather large manual lying in the crib beside you at the hospital.  You know, a manual that explains what is coming and what you may or may not need to do about it.

Did anyone ever explain the art of putting on your socks?  Do you put them both on then your shoes or the left sock and left shoe then the right or should it be the right sock, shoe and then the left?  Things like that were never explained.  Why?

Since life’s mysteries still haunt me every day, I thought I would give it a try and create my “Life Manual”.  Here are just a few things I think should be included.

Dentist:  Mom would tell me to clean my teeth every day but would only say they would rot out if I didn’t.  She left out the fact that if I didn’t there would be an ensuing visit to the dentist which would then bring me unbelievable pain not the mention the hygienist from hell that lectured you and extracted great joy in the pain she was inflecting on you.

School:  Yes school was/is necessary, but they could have made it a lot more fun.  Maybe I would have learned more.

Chores:  This is to be avoided.  Not only are chores not fun but according to my Mom I never did them correctly so why even go there.  Even as an adult chores should be avoided.  Every house should be self cleaning and clean clothes should fold themselves. Dust should be against the law.

Sharing: There were five of us growing up together and if you didn’t learn to share there were lots of fights and tears.  Sharing became an art form.  If you REALLY wanted something you pretended it wasn’t important so your sister didn’t want it too!

Love:  Love is not sex.  Love comes in many forms.  Love of family, love of pets, romantic love, love of chocolate, self love (very necessary in life).  Follow not only your heart by your head and you will be ok.

Hate:  Hating someone or something is not worth the time and effort.  Love is so much more rewarding.

Bugs:  There are good bugs and bad bugs.  Creepy bugs and cute buts, but all of them are necessary to our environment.  I had to learn to get over my fear of bugs with my oldest son, he loved bugs.  So if you don’t like bugs, avoid them.

Deal with it:  Life is not always fair so make the best of it.  Learn, grow, learn some more.  If life deals you lemons, make lemon pie.

Breast: They are never the size (naturally) that you want them.  Men make too big of a deal about this area on a woman.  If they are too big our backs and shoulders hurt.  If they are small….well why is it men think they can embarrass us for fun? Guys, grow up!  Women are beautiful!

Death of a pet:  To me the death of a pet is like loosing part of my family.  They love you unconditionally.  You loved them, you cared for them and you morn them.

Death of family:  This is one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with, death.  I lost my Grandparents, my Father-in-law and my Mother-in law.  The hurt gets less with time, but I miss them each and every day.

What do  you want to be when you grow up? I wanted to be a cowgirl, then a teacher like my cousin Emily Jackson, she was my fourth grade teacher.  I am still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. As I grow I learn and change.

Do you conform or do you boldly strike out alone:  This is one you need to figure out for yourself.  Research, learn, decide.  Never stop learning.

Do you have any you want to add?  Please comment, would love to know what you think!!!!