Marriage Old Fashioned? Just Throw a Kegger!

I have just been told that my marriage of 35 years is old and obsolete! Wow! I was also informed that the marriages “now days” are shorter no longer than 7 to 11 years. I was shocked to say the least. If you are going into this short term then delete the vows “Till death do us part”. I am in my marriage for the long haul. I am growing old with the man I love, my BEST FRIEND.

I recently read and article in CNB News “First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce on average,”  according to Shaunti Feldhahn in an article written by Paul Strand http://www.cbn.com/cbnnews/us/2014/May/Divorce-Shocker-Most-Marriages-Do-Make-It/ . This is much lower than we are led to believe. I have been told it is as high as 50%. So glad to see it is much lower.

So if this relationship you’re in is for the short term then why have the expensive dress, cake flowers, wedding and reception? Just throw a kegger and put up a banner that says “Together until we find someone better”, gifts optional!

No matter what the statistics are and what the naysayers are chanting, I am in my marriage for the long term, say 200 hundred years or more!

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End of the Year – Don’t Look Back

End of the Year – Don’t Look Back

All to often when faced with the end of the year and making New Year’s Resolutions we look back at what we didn’t accomplish during the last year.  DON’T!!!  Never look back.

Look forward, don’t look back.  Instead of making your usual New Year’s Resolutions make a list of what you want to accomplish…..a To Do List!  Be reasonable, don’t make it a long list, make a list that is attainable over the next 12 months.  That is what I have done for the past two years and love scratching off the items I have accomplished.  It is so gratifying, and when it is gratifying you will be willing to get more accomplished. Don’t stress out over your list either.  Decide what you want to accomplish first and do it then go on to the next  project.  You will be surprised how gratifying this is.

Don’t bog yourself down in “I should have” for the prior year.  Look forward to what you CAN accomplish over the next year

Happy New Year!

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In the Kitchen with Grandma Jo

I have been baking and cooking for the upcoming Holidays. Nope, definitely not good for the waist line as I do test them all.   This ritual reminds me of my Grandma Jo’s kitchen, always full of fantastic smells and always cookies in her cookie jar. There are times when I feel her in my kitchen shaking her finger at me for taste testing.

My latest culinary creation was “Cranberry-Ginger Chutney”

The ginger gives the cranberries a little kick. Here is a single batch of the yummy goodness. I double the recipe and bottle then freeze (leave room at the top for expansion) so I can have some all year around.

1 bag cranberries

2 cups spiced apple cider

1 cup brown sugar

3/4 tsp grated FRESH ginger (please remember to peel first)

1/2 tsp lemon, lime or orange zest (optional, I use lime)

1/2 tsp salt

In a medium sized pan, boil the cranberries with the apple cider 6 to 7 minutes until you hear the berries popping. Simmer on medium low for about 10 minutes. Then add the brown sugar, ginger, citrus zest and the salt. Let all this goodness simmer for another 20 minutes. Transfer to containers and refrigerate.

If making a large batch, pour the hot liquid (careful not to burn yourself) into canning jars. Invert (set jar on lid) so it will seal correctly. Store again in the refrigerator and give as gifts.

Have a great Thanksgiving!

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Words

Word are just that, words.   We as a people have created the meanings to those words. We make them good or bad. We let them lift us up or allow them to hurt us. Remember a rhyme from our childhood “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

Harsh words are usually spoken by those who are frustrated. WE choose to allow them to hurt us or we can laugh. Words only hurt, make us cringe, or laugh if you let them. Choose to laugh.

“Words are pale shadows of forgotten names. As names have power, words have power. Words can light fires in the minds of men. Words can wring tears from the hardest hearts.”
Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind     

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Small Business Owner’s, Diversify!

Diversify

If you’re a Small Business Owner then you probably already know that diversification is the name of the game. If you don’t diversify and grow your business almost daily then you will die a very painful death.

I know several Small Business owners that do one thing and do it well, but over the long haul they are loosing their buyers. You can buy the same product once maybe twice (the second time as a replacement or a gift) and then the buyer is done, they no longer need or want your single product. At this point your buyer moves on to someone else that has grown their business by adding to their product line. They have diversified and their business is growing!

Change or diversification is constant and if you want to grow your business then you to must change and grow. Stretch those creative juices. Look around you, what is your competition doing that you aren’t? Are they on more than one site? Do they promote their business on social media sites? Do they blog, send emails? Take a close look, why are they out selling you.

Don’t allow your business to become stale, reach for that brass ring. When you diversify test the waters first by making a few of your new product and see how that item goes over. No Small Business wants to be stuck with a lot product that bombed out in the market place. Go slow, test a few new products and make sure you market and promote your new line.

If you have a product that didn’t make it, CUT the price, put it on sale, get it off your shelves and make room for what your customer really wants.

“Just as variety is the spice of life, diversification is the key to success in business.” McNulty

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Grow, Live Life

Things do not change; we change. ~Henry David Thoreau~

Unless we are willing to grow, change, challenge ourselves we will never become the person we were meant to be.  The best way to chronical our every changing lives is to journal.  You don’t need to journal evey day, try three times a week.  You will be amazed what you find out about yourself.

Spontaneous Natural Growth

1.Ignore negative input from family and others

2.Read

3.Study, Search, Investigate

4.Meditate

5.Discover Yourself

Developing and writing about our personal insights and thoughts can help us recognize our goals and passions in life.

Establishing and understanding our personal independent nature, uniqueness and our place in the design of life – past, present, and future – is an ongoing quest.

Learn from the past, live for today, and plan for the future.

“You should live every day like it’s your last day because one day you’re gonna be right.”   Ray Charles

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No more War

It seems like all my life we, as a country, have been involved in one war or another.

1950-1953 Korean War United States (as part of the United Nations) and South Korea vs. North Korea and Communist China
1960-1975 Vietnam War United States and South Vietnam vs. North Vietnam
1961 Bay of Pigs Invasion United States vs. Cuba
1983 Grenada United States Intervention
1989 US Invasion of Panama United States vs. Panama
1990-1991 Persian Gulf War United States and Coalition Forces vs. Iraq
1995-1996 Intervention in Bosnia and Herzegovina United States as part of NATO acted peacekeepers in former Yugoslavia
2001 Invasion of Afghanistan United States and Coalition Forces vs. the Taliban regime in Afghanistan to fight terrorism.
2003 Invasion of Iraq United States and Coalition Forces vs. Iraq

http://americanhistory.about.com/library/timelines/bltimelineuswars.htm

As a young girl, living in Ohio, I can remember visiting a shopping mall where we got to tour bomb shelters. You could buy one of several different sizes and put one under your back yard. Not that they would have done any good, but it made our parents feel safer. It terrorized me. How many back yards in the Midwest still have these shelters underground? How many of them have been forgotten.

I remember vividly the Bay of Pigs, I didn’t sleep I was so scared. That was all any adult in my small farming community could talk about.   We even made and rolled bandages, we were preparing for the worst. My cousin was on a Navy blockade ship and I was so afraid I would never see him again. War, conflict, is a social disruption and economic destruction and has a way of instilling fear into your heart and soul.

So why are we still involved in someone else’s war, even though we are not wanted there. Why do we as a nation think we need to be the “World Police”. Why can’t we be the “World Peacemakers”. There has to be a better way.

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